What BDSM means to me

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Hi dear readers,
This post will be all about kink, BDSM and fetishes. I will talk about some of my favourite kinks, what submission means to me and, most importantly, consent. Get comfy and grab some tea or coffee and let’s start this little kinky adventure. 😉

Consent is necessary

Let’s get that out of the way first, shall we? Consent is an important part of all (sexual) interactions and I would like to stress that here, too. Above all, we all want to have fun, don’t we? If you are into BDSM, whether you want to live the lifestyle 24/7 or just like to receive a spanking every now and then, limits and boundaries are so important. Talk with your partner about what you like and what you’re still curious about!  Maybe it’s going to be awkward, but it might as well be loads of fun.

BDSM checklists are often used to figure out what people like and don’t like. It’s a good way to figure out what all the possibilities are before jumping in and talk about your preferences. Even though, I have to say that most checklists feel too elaborate for me. I always feel that by the time I finally filled out the list, I need to start over because it’s no longer accurate. I prefer talking about what people would like to feel during a play scene and what kind of intimacy they crave. The “Not a Checklist” negotiation sheet is one of my favourite examples of this.

On the note of consent: I know that am going to be talking about lots of hot kinks, but this does not mean that I am open to this at any time of the day with just anyone. 😉

Small, submissive and smart-mouthed

I love being submissive. Power dynamics are just so exciting to play with! I love it when you’re in charge and to take decisions for me. Tell me what to wear, what to do and make me serve you like a good girl. I’m no brat, but I might just tease you a little bit when I want attention. Attention means spankings. I want lots of spankings. I can’t help it!

Submission is often not about specific kinks for me. The click comes first, kinks come later. It is more about intimacy, the connection and our dynamic. From service-oriented submission to being used like your own personal play toy, I crave it. I want to fullfill your needs, your cravings and make you hungry for more. Teasing is one of the things I love most: I want to see and feel you wanting me. ♥

Masochism, bondage and filth

I can’t possibly list everything I’m into – I’d be writing forever! But I still want to give you a little peek inside my brain, just because I can. 😉

Age play or ddlg (Daddy Dom/ Litte Girl) is something that really describes the kind of dynamic I love. Being small and having someone else take care of me, make decisions and give me stern looks when I’m supposed to do my homework (oops!).. Dressed up in the cutests outfits, squirming in your lap while you whisper scary things in my ear, I love it. 

Bondage and being restrained is also very sexy. It turns me on when I can’t fight back and am left to your mercy. I love the feeling of rope, but restraints like handcuffs, bondage tape and tiewraps are also very welcome. I won’t go anywhere, daddy!

At last, spankings are the best. I’m a little masochist and I love it when you play dirty. Hit me where it hurts and pick some of the nastiest implements you can find. I’ll be buzzing with excitement while begging for your mercy. Markings make me very happy, especially when they hurt if I sit down. I won’t forget about this punishment.. or funishment, which is probably a better word for it.

I hope you all liked this little peek inside my brain. In the future, I might write some more about my other kinks and fetishes, as I love talking about what gets me off. 😉

x jane